Dr. Dianne Baer PhD, LPC, CMHC, DCC
Dr. Dianne Baer PhD, LPC, CMHC, DCC
Change your thoughts and you can change your world
Change your thoughts and you can change your world
The books below are books that I often suggest or share with my clients for a variety of issues they may be having. I believe that education about what is going on in your life helps you to focus on finding a more positive outcome. These books are available online through Amazon, Books-a-Million and Barnes & Noble, etc. You may be able to find them in local bookstores (sometimes at Target) or in the public library.
RELATIONSHIPS:
- One-Way Relationship Workbook: Step-by-Step Help for Coping With Narcissists, Egotistical Lovers, Toxic Coworkers, and Others Who Are Incredibly Self-Absorbed
by Neil J. Lavender, Alan Cavaiola
When you interact with a friend, family member, intimate partner, or coworker who is a narcissist, there's no give and take.
The relationship only goes one way-their way-and you constantly have to adjust your own expectations and behavior to meet their standards. That's because people with narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD, are preoccupied with seeking admiration and power and find it difficult to empathize with others' feelings. And, as if maintaining a good relationship with a narcissist weren't hard enough, most narcissists do not realize or believe that they have a disorder at all.
HEALING:
Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief
For those who have suffered the loss of a loved one, here are strength and thoughtful words to inspire and comfort.
BARIATRIC SURGERY SUPPORT:
The Weight Loss Surgery WorkbookDeciding on Bariatric Surgery, Preparing for the Procedure, and Changing Habits for Post-Surgery Success by Doreen A. Samelson EdD, MSCP, Arnold D. Salzberg MD
How do you imagine life after weight loss surgery? Maybe you see yourself living a more exciting life than ever before, participating in activities you haven't enjoyed in years.
If you have been stuck in an ongoing struggle with obesity, your dreams for life after bariatric surgery may be as simple as being able to sit in a seat at a movie theater or going for a walk outside. Chances are, along with those dreams, you also have lingering questions and concerns about the bariatric surgery process. If you're seeking honest answers,The Weight Loss Surgery Workbook can help.
Couple Skills: Making Your Relationship Work:
Matthew McKay, Patrick Fanning, Kim Paleg
Love takes work, but, when it comes to relationships, it pays to work smarter. Couple Skills, Second Edition, revised and updated from the therapist-recommended classic, will show you how to work smarter in your relationship. You'll learn to improve communication, cope better with problems, and resolve conflicts with the one you love in healthy and creative ways. Each chapter teaches you an essential skill that supports greater relationship satisfaction and deeper intimacy.
The Anger Trap: Free Yourself from the Frustrations that Sabotage Your Life by Les Carter
It's easy to identify rage in people who lose their temper at traffic jams, unruly children, unresponsive coworkers, and unrealistic bosses. But we may not recognize more subtle manifestations of anger, such as being uncomfortable with loose ends, acting impatiently, or being overly critical. That is anger, too. And, as is so often the case, angry folks don't seem to realize that the behavior causing them problems at home or at work actually stems from unrecognized and unresolved pain and emotional injuries from the past. Is all this negative emotion inevitable, or are there choices about how to respond, choices that can improve personal relationships as well as emotional health?
Fear, shame, anger, self-doubt. Helping people "let go" of self-destructive thoughts, emotions, and behaviors has been the life work of acclaimed author Melody Beattie. For more than a decade, millions of readers have turned to Beattie's classic meditation book, The Language of Letting Go, as a wellspring for daily reflection, affirmation, and change. Now the journal edition of this best-seller features the entire original meditation text in a format that affords room for readers to record their thoughts, fears, and accomplishments.
When Anger Hurts Your Relationship is a first-aid manual for angry couples. Psychologists and best-selling authors Matthew McKay and Kim Paleg present an array of tools and strategies that couples can use to reduce conflict, diffuse intense rages, and move beyond repeated anger dynamics. Each chapter is chock-full of proven cognitive-behavioral techniques to help couples reconcile their differences and begin to heal from the hurt that's already been done.
God gave us emotions to experience life, not destroy it! Lysa TerKeurst admits that she, like most women, has had experiences where others bump into her happy and she comes emotionally unglued. We stuff, we explode, or we react somewhere in between. What do we do with these raw emotions? Is it really possible to make emotions work for us instead of against us? Yes, and in her usual inspiring and practical way, Lysa will show you how. Filled with gut-honest personal examples and biblical teaching, Unglued will equip you to: Know with confidence how to resolve conflict in your important relationships. Find peace in your most difficult relationships as you learn to be honest but kind when offended.
Identify what type of reactor you are and how to significantly improve your communication. Respond with no regrets by managing your tendencies to stuff, explode, or react somewhere in between. Gain a deep sense of calm by responding to situations out of your control without acting out of control.