I have a quote at the end of every email I send out that says "Change your thoughts and you change your world." Earlier this week one of my thoughtful clients had found it on a canvas and brought it to me to add to my office space. It seemed like that maybe it was time that I tried a dose of my own medicine.
Don't you think it's true that we can so EASILY see in others what should be obviously in need of change while we deny those very things in ourselves. I'm not sure what our reasons are behind the denial most of the time. For me, I think I am so busy that I don't STOP and think and when I'm not busy, I'm too TIRED to stop and think. We don't like to look at our flaws, our weaknesses, or anything that could open us up to criticism. But how unfair that really is to myself and those around me to be resistant to change...especially when it could make my future better!
One of my most frustrating things personally is traffic. My children and husband will totally agree to that. Even as far back as when the children were in elementary school, I recall becoming frustrated with some of the parent's driving skills (or lack of) just maneuvering through the parking lot to get home! It makes me irritated when people pull out in front of me, change lanes unexpectedly without warning, use the middle lane as a "pull out and wait" lane, don't use their signals, don't use their headlights, drive too fast, drive too slow, don't stay within their lane, and so on and on.
I have always struggled with planning plenty of time to get anywhere so it is no wonder that I become impatient with other drivers when the real culprit is myself. Recently they have begun road construction on a large portion of my drive to and from work. The first few days I felt so frustrated that I was plotting how far I would have to drive out of my way just to avoid ever driving that way again. The work is expected to last for up to two years!
So today I did some self talk before leaving the house. I'm thinking maybe it is once again God's sense of humor to have me drive through this 55 speed limit on a four lane hi-way, when the digital sign flashing my speed says that everyone is going about 18. Today I turned my music on and decided to use the time to relax and take some deep breaths. I had time to think more about my upcoming sessions for the day and what I hoped to accomplish. I even planned out how I would manage to stick to my diet during the day. My sessions went very well today. And that just feels so good.
After a long day, I arrived home to find my daughter and grandson here for an overnight visit. She and my husband were cooking together in the kitchen while Reid was driving his car around the house. Well, he IS 17 months old and has to start practicing now! I felt that I'd had a very successful day and was able to relax tonight with my family. Changing my thoughts changed my world today. I may have to try it again sometime soon. Maybe you should too?